There’s some sort of cleanliness I desire in my life. I’m not rich to own the most beautiful things in the world but the little things I own should be beautiful. It should beautify my life and beautify the space I find myself in. My husband understands this. In fact, it’s the only thing I drummed in his ears when we were dating. But Maybe he misunderstood me or maybe I was the one who misunderstood him.
When I went to his house and saw a mess and cleaned it up, to me, it was a message I was sending across. After all, there’s a mess in a message. All pun intended. When I told him, “No you don’t have to leave this here.” “You don’t have to leave bowls uncleaned overnight.” When I told him not to do this and that, I thought I was communicating my desire for a clean space in a clear language that he could understand. But like I said, I over-estimated the power of my actions.
We dated for four years. I saw a change. I noticed the change easily because it was a huge improvement considering what I saw of him from the beginning. I would go to his house for a visit and his room would be spotless. Everything would be where I left them the last time I arranged his place. I was happy. Anytime I saw something in order, I told him, “You’re doing very well for taking care of your space. See where your laundry is. Well arranged and well kept. What do you want me to do for you as a reward? Just name it” He’ll brush me aside and call me a tease but I was serious about everything I said.
Of course, life is not all about cleanliness. There’s more. There are other things that contribute to the beauty of life. He shone brightly in those other areas. He was a very patient man. He hardly got angry. If you pick a fight with him, you’ll end up doing the fight all by yourself. At worse, he’ll walk away and leave you standing with yourself. Or when you send a text out of anger, he’ll read and ask you, “So what do you want me to do now?” I will put the anger aside and tell him what he’s supposed to do. He’ll do it and ask me, “Happy now?” That in itself was very annoying but I came to appreciate it. I grew used to it because it was a positive thing.
We got married in 2019 and moved in together. Then everything I worked for over the years came to zilch. We started arguing a lot. It worried my heart often but he saw it as me overreacting. Every night after we had eaten, I would clean everything in the sink, place them where they are supposed to, mop the floor of the kitchen, and close it. It signals the end of the day. So we’ll wake up in the morning with a good-looking kitchen and start a new day with everything looking fresh. My husband is a late eater.
Sometimes, just before we go to bed, he’ll go to the kitchen, heat something up, and eat before coming to bed. I don’t have issues with that but guess what, he’ll leave the dirty dish in the sink, swing his watery hands so the water in his palm would splash around the kitchen, leave the microwave open without even turning off the switch and then come to bed,So I will wake up in the morning and saw… Tap Here To Continue Reading For More Details… Share